Eating

Mixed feelings. Patients and clients at The Surrey Centre often admit that they both do and do not want to get better. Both/And! They see this as a fault, as a failing, and too often they feel ashamed of it when actually it is a truth of the human condition that we often, if not […]

To better know and understand our feelings few would disagree that insightfulness is helpful. But in and of itself insight changes very little. Unconscious, psycho-biologically driven behaviours are not much influenced at all by how much we know about them. Clients and patients make this clear to me over and over again in their struggles

Duty. It is an old-fashioned concept. It describes a weird yet familiar combination of feelings somewhere between care for others and care for oneself. It is about doing the right thing. But when someone is unhappy and fighting herself trying not to binge or not to starve or not to cut herself when she would