My soul is seared with the presence of immanence. I cannot look out or within and not see it like an oasis on fire in the desert. Like my mother and father on their death beds. Like my son lying in the road having been tossed in the air by a car. Like my baby […]
Introversion and extroversion are not about being miserable or cheerful. As a very general description of personality, they simply describe whether a person’s default position is to look inwards, what psychologists with their customary lack of poetic flourish, call ‘inward processing’, or outwards, ie ‘outward processing’. But for most people this distinction is not very
Please, take a very high, birds-eye view of cause and effect and observe the fit between all the causes and effects below. Then look up into the darkness and light in the vastness of all the skies above, the patterns there too are clear, even if they are fractalish, haphazard, and too vast to comprehend.
Mixed feelings. Patients and clients at The Surrey Centre often admit that they both do and do not want to get better. Both/And! They see this as a fault, as a failing, and too often they feel ashamed of it when actually it is a truth of the human condition that we often, if not
To better know and understand our feelings few would disagree that insightfulness is helpful. But in and of itself insight changes very little. Unconscious, psycho-biologically driven behaviours are not much influenced at all by how much we know about them. Clients and patients make this clear to me over and over again in their struggles
Duty. It is an old-fashioned concept. It describes a weird yet familiar combination of feelings somewhere between care for others and care for oneself. It is about doing the right thing. But when someone is unhappy and fighting herself trying not to binge or not to starve or not to cut herself when she would
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I’ll start by stating the obvious: eating disorders all exist in relation to the consumption of food. The first persons to give us food, other things being equal, are our mums when we are born and put to the breast. Swiftly moving on (to some years later): people who have developed a binge eating disorder
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